I had a brief discussion with a friend about the chance of being in love with someone else when you’re married.
- during 50 years of your marriage you husband sleeps with other woman for 10 times
- of all the thousands of sex in those 50 years, your wife doing it thinking of and being in love with other man for two months full
- you are sometimes bored with the daily routine
You could get hurt, your spouse could get hurt, there are times when you feel backstabed, sad, truly unhappy but hey.. you need to stay in the marriage. Your kids need you to do that (It’s the “My friends have two parents, why don’t I?" crap). Do it for them. Do it for your stupid big family and society who think being in a marriage is better. Cheat or being cheated could mean nothing compare to the togetherness, the never-ending support and the unconditional love you’ll have by being in a family. Everything has a price to pay. Do the math, those unexpected disappointments you have with your spouse.. say, all compiled in eight years, are nothing to 42 years of happiness. *Sigh* If only happiness is all about numbers.
(Though Yoga said I just haven’t found someone who can change my mind. ‘Crazy’ things we do for love, eh? :P ).
2 comments:
Well i just don't understand why someone can be so cynical of this marriage institution..Like you said everything has it own risks right..
Every human having needs to be in love.And there is always a chance on being cheated,backstabbed,getting hurt if you are in love and having commitment with someone,whether you married or not..
You still have to tolerate and sacrifice something if you are in love,with or without marriage.
I know marriage is a complicated thing,but life's complicated right so it just the same.
I'm not saying that it is better to be married than the one whose not,or that married person is happier than unmarried one.But you can't also said that being single is better than being married.
We are really different on this one sis.
You never experience it,and i'm still a rookie on this one.I don't think that none of us having enough knowledge to tell what's better what's not.
Semua pilihan tergantung dari masing2 orang sih.Kebutuhan,cara pikir,kemauan tiap orang beda..
Just don't be too negative and shut your self from it..Maybe someday you decided that you wanna try this one and maybe you actually will like it... :))
-mantan tetanggamu-
*nite nite*
ya, gue setuju dgn point "we'll still get hurt anyway even if we're not in a marriage" dan point tolerate dan sacrifice. so what about "high risk means high gain"? high gain refers to? the togetherness, support and long lasting love from the people we call family? kalau itu, gue bisa setuju. tapi kalau high gainnya means "happiness", well that's debatable.
gue cuma berpikir jangan janji kalau ngga bisa lo tepati. gue ngga ngerti sama orang yang mengingkari janji ke pasangannya berulang2 dan berlindung di balik "yah, namanya juga manusia".
gue juga ngga bilang single is better, that way i'll be judgemental myself. for now, gue cuma melihat lembaga perkawinan itu sebagai sesuatu yang absurd and i do think marriage is over-rated.
sorry, i just see too many tears in people's marriage. yang single mungkin juga nangis sesekali, tapi yang pasti mereka ngga perlu tidur bersebelahan dengan orang yang bikin mereka nangis.
again, mungkin juga gue cuma belum nemu orang yang bisa membuat semua pikiran negatif ini menjadi sedikit lebih positif. cause i am a love fool myself (i do think we all are, or else, why would someone wanna be in an absurd institution such a marriage?? - haha tetep).
mungkin juga ini adalah sebuah fase.
atau mungkin juga karena gue kebanyakan bengong di rumah abis lebaran.
gym anyone? ;)
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